I'd go to pick Linda up in my car, and someone always be outside to talk, Andrew, Mark, Alan, these are a few I remember.
But today when I read that mark had passed I was shocked, as he had just visited us last month when we were at Qualicum Bay. I played that visit over in my mind a bit, as I read that Mark had passed. I know that we are all headed there one day, but with Mark, it seems like he just retired, such a short retirement.
It doesn't seem fair, but life isn't fair!
Makes me think that as we move through our lives towards an unsure future, what's it all about? We've chosen to travel, visit with friends and family, and continue to bake Polly's go to, and build, my go to, as we go forward. Our choices are personal, we each choose what we value, what we love as we move forward.
I didn't know Mark really well, but he's come for a visit about once a year, or one time we went to his place for a visit in Parksville. We knew he he was married, but never did meet his wife Jan, just never happened somehow. He'd talk about her, but we just never connected.
I don't think I ever knew he had children until today. I knew his sister, and I remember his father, as when I was in Big Brothers, his dad was part of the board that oversaw the matching of boy's with big brothers. I remember his mom too.
I realized I didn't really get to know him well, just through the visits we had, we'd talk, and he'd ask about us, but he only talked a little about himself, well other that his work, onboard the ship's, and his experiences there. He did tell us this last visit that he was on the ship when they found the ship that was stuck in the ice trying to discover the north west passage. Frankin is the man's name that led the expedition as I remember, but thinking back to our conversation, I don't remember the name Mark gave of the ship that was found when he was there.
I'll miss Mark, and his visits, I'll remember the person he was.
Moving forward in our lives I don't expect to change the world, but I did hear some say to me recently, "Your leaving a (now I forget the descriptive word) of things you build as you travel."
When I heard this I was surprised to think that I am, leaving stuff behind as we travel, not that I plan it this way, but it seems like I am. I really love doing what I do, and that's most important. That I do it for someone, also important, that they value it, whatever I made, that feel's good to me, and them.
Making something for someone, using our time to create something that someone else values, is one of the best use's I can think of of my time left here. It gives me pleasure making it, as it does them having it.
Today is Polly and my 30th Anniversary, we have no big celebration plans, Dinner out, and a card to celebrate. We have a cruise planned for early next year, a tester, as we haven't graduated to that form of travel yet, I'm not sure we will, but many people love it, so we'll try it.
Polly had her nails done yesterday by our granddaughter Taylor, was a fun experience to watch, I only had glimpses, as I was in and out doing what I do, making a sign for Taylor and her boyfriend. Before Polly's nails were done,
I brought in the sign for Taylor, she really loved it, well one half of it 😂, as I had her name first on one side,
on the other it started off with Brett's name 
Taylor Love's the sign, so does Brett, they've hung it up already at home she sent a photo of it, but I can't find it now.
Makes me happy to make this sign for them, and doing Memeres nails made Taylor & her Memere happy.
Pictures of her professional work
Later Polly says, Oh yeah, come in the bedroom Taylor! I sat in the chair awhile listing to them as they went through some of Polly's old jewelry, and then onto clothes. Was a give away festival, Taylor was really happy about to receive these gifts. She showed me a bracelet that she got, was beautiful she thought, looks really nice on her.
Polly was very happy to give, and Taylor was very happy with the gifts.
I think that's what it's all about in life, pleasure we get in giving and receiving, whether it's time, listening to another person, or sharing a story, or a tangible article, it's really about giving and receiving, and the pleasure it gives you as it happens.
As we travel through our lives, it's really not the destination that's the goal, it's the traveling that's the reward, all the scuffs, and scratches that really imprint on your soul that are the reward as you travel through life.
Today I'll remember Mark, as he made a Mark on me, and his life was well lived.
Today I'll also celebrate 🥂 30 years of amazing marks Polly and I have made as we scrambled through these 30 years of our wonderful marriage. We both know how fortunate we are to be able to live as we do, and laugh as often as we do with family and friends. 🤗❤️
Love our life ❤️
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