Tuesday 27 December 2022

Christmas done, that went fast, now what?

Today is the day after the crazy of Christmas. A day that people go back to work, share stories with friends and work mate's about their Christmas and how it went. Most that are talking will be relaying the fun and happiness of there family time, gifts received & given, party's attended, friends they haven't seen for years they saw, all the fun and happiness of the season. 

I remember always someone that didn't talk about their Christmas, off to the side at work, someone that was silent, just went to work, did their job quietly. I never really understood their quiet. I do now, Christmas was hard this year, and as I go to write it here the phone always jumps to Chris as it's the phone's first guess at what I'm trying to write. Maybe is a good thing, but really doesn't feel like it right now. 

We went to Key West for Christmas Eve, I had planned to go Christmas day, but thinking ahead the thought of driving there and back same day didn't excite me, so I booked a Airbnb for the night close to where I thought we would be able to walk about easily. We were both excited to go.

The drive was nice, road was busy, but we were in no hurry, so pulled over every once in awhile, checking out a shop here, a beach there, and finally stopped for lunch off the beaten path, through a gate that was knocked down, reminded me of the pit at home, where the young went to party. We saw remnants of fires, and the tracks of someone doing donuts in the sand. Nobody here, and ocean water in the pools close to the gravel/coral surface here. Perfect place for lunch.

Polly got the cooler and made a few sandwiches, we had a few non alcoholic beers there too. The wind was cool, but the Sun was warm as we sat inside looking out at the beautiful water here. 

Lunch was good, we packed up and off we went for our last 1/2 hour to Key West. It was busy getting into town, but the GPS on my phone helped find the place easily. After calling Dave, we got all our stuff up the stairs, then checked out our room, was nice, nothing fancy, but nice. Had a balcony that we could sit on later which we like to do. 

We laid on the bed for a little while, Polly got the TV working right away as I parked the truck. Was nice to be here, away, even if was still Florida, and cool out, we were away. After a bit we went for a walk, Polly had no jacket so we had a mission, didn't take long she found just what she wanted across the street. 

After a short stroll we came back to the room, and watched TV for awhile, just numbing our mind's. Polly had bought a bottle of wine 🍷 the day before, a big bottle, and was about 2/3rds left, so we took this and our glasses Polly had packed to the porch and joined another couple that were out there from Kansas City, trying to get the football 🏈 game on their laptop. Kansas was playing the Seahawks, we said Seahawks, that's the team we are fans of! Well they informed us Seahawks were loosing. 😳

Oh well, looking like no playoffs for them. After awhile Dave the guy that showed us in came out, we all talked, then after awhile I was topping up Polly's wine, and talking with Dave as Polly talked with the couple. Was an interesting time, Dave was well read, and knew so much about history, we talked it up for a few hours. Polly was also having a good yak up with the couple. 

Finally the wine ran out, and we decided to go back to our room. Was a nice way to spend a couple hours. We sat in the room and warmed up a bit before dinner, watching TV, then as my stomach rumbling started I said wanna go to dinner, Polly was almost going to sleep, but up she got, and off we went to a Cuban restaurant that Dave had recommended. 

On the way there Polly was cold, the wind was not our friend this Christmas Eve, and Polly let me know. Brr she said, as we walked. The restaurant was packed when we got there, but we were asked how many, and after a couple minutes we were seated and given menus. Surprised we were, our drinks ordered and food orders taken in 5-10 minutes, great! The noise of so many people was joyess, was nice to be where so many were so happy 😊😀

I ordered another glass 🍷 of wine, Polly says ice tea, no more wine, LoL. We talked, and watched people, just really enjoyed our time here. Then food arrived, that was great, and really good food, something different. Yellow rice, they called it, looking orange to me, really good, and beans in a different dish, small dark brown, I had grooper, Polly had chicken & shrimp, Mmm 😋 good. The topper was plantiene, neither of us ever had this before, and it was Mmm 😋 good. 

After dinner we sat awhile, the waiter brought to-go box and a bag to pack it in. The bill was less than I thought, and the service great, and food fantastic, made for a very nice evening. The cleanup guy found my keys for me, and Polly's phone for her, that deserved and extra tip. All in all was a very good experience. 

Polly is up now, sitting next to me playing her game on her phone, grr, ahhh, all the frustration she gets playing, I'm laughing. LoL lol. 😂🤣😅

We walked home, looking at the different decorations as we went, some very different than anything we saw before. Was a nice walk for me, still Cold for Polly. 

                This one really struck me, an
          Angels horn of Peace on the rooftop 

            When Pigs fly was my thought

Was a very good evening, home to our room we went, and sleep was good, bed was hard. 

In the morning I woke early as per usual, coffee ☕ was available,


 I made a cup at 5am, sat and looked at my phone till Polly wake at 6. We talked, I got a coffee ☕ for here & another ☕ for me. TV on now. At 7 I went for a walk about, I love this time, streets are bare, only a very few out this early on Christmas day, some were the hard done by, some I saw later we the exercise type, but mostly nobody. 

As I walk I like photos, so much new to see here, different sight's. I walked along looking for the beach on the point of the key, but no beach, just fencing all along, a naval base here

         ocean view here through the fence

    State park entrance was closed until 8am

and all closed off, even the state park has a huge fence up. I'm not used to this, as in Canada we do have more freedom when it comes to public lands, at least where I'm from, BC. I am noticing the changes coming there too though, more gates, and no trespassing signs. Always brothers me, reminds me of the song. "Sign Sign, Everywhere a Sign" 

I walked for about an hour&1/2 was a good walk, took many photos, then on the way back I stopped in and got a couple chi tea lattes, and 2 chocolate croissants, and a couple fruit tarts. Polly was surprised, she says "didn't do good for the waistline, but was Christmas 😆"

After our breaky, we took a little time to walk about, but shopping was out for today, although all the stores were open by 9am, we decided to make our way home slowly, we checked out by 10, packed our foods to the truck, and we're heading home along the south shore where we discovered the best beaches are, long beaches, with parking all along. We now know where to go when we return. 

     One of the many boats that come to USA
              from Cuba regularly.

On our trip home we stopped at Bahi Honda state Park, wanted to take a look around here, maybe get a campsite for the future, LoL, not likely, all booked on line, and only way to get one we were told was keep refreshing your screen till you get lucky and someone cancels. LoL, yea right, like that's what I'm going to do! 

Was nice to see the place again, but wind got even stronger now, so we didn't really get to looking around too much, well come back again. 

The rest of the way home was slow, and we liked it like that, always a few that want to go fast, so I let them by so they can catch up to the next guy and pester him. 

Was a nice trip, will do again when warmer. Warmer is coming tomorrow, looking at the forecast I'm thinking AC going to be on again, I know now to enjoy the Cool for today, will be nice and warm tomorrow. 

Getting back to what now? I think plans, that's what I remember from my last time I felt like this, make plans, set plans on the calendar, make some interesting possibilities for our future. 

That we have done, and will continue to do as life can get you down, but it's up to you to pick yourself up and carry on, that's just the way it is, you gotta take care of you! That's life!

As Memere used to say "Life is Life." 

I say let's get going, cause time doesn't slow for anyone. 

😊😀😁   🤗❤️









Friday 23 December 2022

Writing in the Rain, under the awning in shorts

When we left Grande Prairie Alberta at -20 having experience with -32 I wanted warmer, but I never really thought 2weeks later I'd be outside at 7am writing under the awning in my shorts and tee-shirt while the rain came down.

 Polly just got up after I came outside, I gave her a "Good morning" through the screen, she's now put the dishes away that dried overnight. I usually do, but not today, I read about a few things this morning, the amount of oil&gas our province's BC & Alberta have, so much. Yet we still have so much trouble trying to get it to market. 

I looked about FB for awhile, checked out boats here on market place, some beauty's here. Looked at some cool cars here too, not buying, just looking, so much easier that purchases. I booked a room in key West for Christmas Eve last night as we watched a movie, the drive there and back on Christmas day would be long otherwise. Will be nice, a night there for Christmas, never thought we'd be doing that either. 

Life goes on. 


My view as I write, a beautiful palm across the street full of coconuts I think. The road is right behind that campsite, I can here the cars going by in the morning, all going to work somewhere I'm thinking. It's nice to hear the hustle and bustle, and not have to be "in it", we can wait till later to go somewhere, or maybe not go at all. 

It's interesting how I look at things, every place we camp there is something that catches my heart ❤️, something that I see that I really like.
This site has flowers behind on shrubs, and palms in front, and warm breeze, the traffic is there too, but not a problem. I hear the helicopter up already, traffic copter? Who knows, I'm just content to sit and watch and listen to the day unfold. 

Coffee ☕ is cold, almost gone now, I ate a cinnamon bun earlier that was left from yesterday's Christmas celebration here, was nice seeing the kids here getting presents from the resort managers. The kids were all happy, well most of them, the teen, or preteens we're kinda of unimpressed, but that's just the way, LoL. 

Rains stopped now, I'm thinking a walk is in order now. See if after a visit inside with Polly I feel the same. So much yet to see here, and when wet it will all be just a little different. Looking forward to my walk already. 

🤗🌴❤️🎄




Tuesday 20 December 2022

My early morning today.

Polly's word's "That sun sure feels nice, I think I'll have to put on my Capris tomorrow " 😀

Our travels have started again, Polly and I both happy to look forward, even though we are still active in getting some movement on Chris's case with the law. Will pause for the Christmas season, take a break from beating my head against the door's of justice, to enjoy the moments here south. 

😳 we had a casualty in the park yesterday 

We shopped yesterday, not my favorite, but if it wasn't for Polly seeing the need, I might be opening a can of I don't know what for dinner, LoL. We went to Walmart, not a favorite of mine (just don't like how the machine operates) and stood in line while an older man on the till fumbled through trying to deal with a customer, I felt for him, thought about how he must feel dealing with this job, I'm sure he needs, yet probably wasn't in his plans going forward in life. 

Then we get a young person who relieves the older guy, she gave us some talk rather than geterdone, that was enough shopping in the big box for me, I'm not going to do that again for awhile, if Polly wants, she can, I'm just not going to, I'll go to a place where they bag my groceries for me and I pay a little more.

LoL, if you didn't know, I'm not a good shopper, I am the kinda person that gets in, get it, and go. If it's not readily available as I get in the store, or I just am not in the mood, I'm outta there. That's my kinda shopping. Polly knows, so when I endure a trip, she knows I'm giving in to her want, or need to get a "good deal".

We did get a couple decent steaks, not great, but acceptable, and nice veggies, and of course I had to get a carton of ice cream 😀
Chocolate, with some nuts. So not all was lost. We had a nice dinner, I got the BBQ out of the basement, even though I wasn't wanting to, and tank out of the truck, and then cooked the steaks. Was nice to have a good dinner with my honey, Polly did a few shrimp up too, made for a really nice dinner. 


                      tasty it was

Doesn't sound like anything different, but it has been a long time since we have been camped, and on our own, in our home. Dinner was nice, no wine, we kinda missed that, but all in all was nice. 

We took a walk in the late afternoon around the campground, and down the dock by the water, met a few people, talked little, petted a few nice dogs, was nice to get out. Polly resisted the walk, but I managed to discard her excuse this time, and she thanked me on return. We held hands, talking and walking was nice. 

Afternoon looking towards the campground 

Polly mentioned to me yesterday and brought it up again on our walk, maybe next year we will just fly to Mexico and spend a few months, instead of driving? Most of the time when Polly says something I pay attention, this would be a change alright, I'm wondering now if this will happen? I do like having our home with us, I do like having all our stuff as we travel. 

I wonder what next year will bring? We have a plan to return to the island for the spring and part of the summer, catch up with family and friends, then travel towards Grande Prairie to visit with Ciara and our grandchildren there, Taylor & Brett, Jack & Wendy, & other friends we have made, or know there. Then what? 

Polly has moved past this to flying somewhere, and renting a place for 3 or more months. I'm not sure we will, but I'm aware now there is a plan starting. Will see what materializes 😊

For now we have till the end of January at a place in Florida city, will get our site today, and start settling in for Christmas, and plans to go for a drive to the Florida keys on Christmas day is in works. Maybe I can steer Polly away from cooking a big dinner on Christmas day for a change, a picnic on the beach maybe 😀 will see how the days unravel. 

6:00 now, coffee ☕ got a little cool, I'm going to warm it up and watch a little something on the phone and wait for Polly to stir, or day light to come, then a walk about before packing up for our trip to Florida city. Be another fine day I'm sure. 

Merry Christmas y'all 🎄⛄

No snow feels so darn good 😎🌞♥️🤗

Saturday 17 December 2022

Today we travel again

Off to Florida today, all going well we will be at our RV park by Tuesday afternoon, see how the trip goes, is about 14hours total drive time depending on the route we take. We do like stops and check out places on our way, but this time I'm wanting to be there and setup and meet our new neighbors before Christmas day! 🎄⛄ 

I'm up and showered before 6am, coffee ☕ by my side, and phone in hand, feeling pretty darn good. Sleep was really good last night, when I wake almost always the same thoughts, Chris and what's happened. I try to change my thoughts, but sometimes I just let it come. Today I had a mission, get up get ready and go. So I did dwell long on the thoughts. I tear up a little as I write, is normal I'm told, 

I read FB posts, and Jarrid's post gets me good, he tells it like I feel, give us a chance to go to trial, and have a jury look over the facts, then make a decision. That's when we think we would get Justice! On the same page if the case was lost in court, it could affect the outcome of the civil suit. That I surely would not want to happen. Ciara is going to need all the financial help she can get to raise the boys, and continue. 

So I'm torn going forward, what's the best way to go at this, angry and pushing for justice? As that's what I want, I good ole beat em up, drag em down the road on his face fight! (And that Putin it mildly) In court, with the prosecuter fighting with the law to gain justice for Chris and all of us!  Or do I see the day we see him in civil court, with our lawyer asking him the questions we all want answered now? What the hell were you thinking? Why would you do this you asshole? Do you know the pain you have caused? Do you care? 

I'm not sure, but I do know today we travel, and that's something, something we love Polly and I, so onward and forward towards the warmth of Florida, and the excitement of the journey. It's light enough out now I can go start the fridge in our trailer, and come back here to our friends home, and get all our foods packed ready to travel. 

Our goodbyes to our friends who have been so darn good to us here, just amazes me, I shake my head just now as I write, very good friends 🤗❤️  now I'm teared up again, hard to write with this sorta shit happening all the time, but I'm getting used to looking through the tears, and seeing the words blury, it's the snotty nose that is a real problem lol. 

And on we go, looking forward to what's to come. 

🤗❤️ Thanks so much friends, and friends of friends for the support during this most thought time 🤗🤗🤗❤️❤️❤️



Friday 9 December 2022

Thinking deeply about life

As I sit here early morning in Grande Prairie in our friends home, coffee ☕ by my side, warm and protected from the cold outside I think how fortunate we are, Polly and I. At a time when we were at our most vulnerable we received help from so many people, friends that are understanding our, hmm, predicament, pain, dispair, hurt, just a few of so many words that may possibly describe this &_$#@?¥€¢£π√®©% we are in. 

That's the best I can do to screem at what's happened, what I am so amazed at is the support we have gotten over the last 2 months from so many people. 

It's 6am, I woke at 4, LoL, I now call a 4 am wakeup a good sleep, funny how things change, slowly normal will return! 

Or friends have let us move into their home, and made us as comfortable as it was our own, I we can't say enough about how much easier it was to be able to do what we needed to do here in Grande Prairie. We wanted to and had to help our Daughter-in-law Ciara and her family through this unbelievable time in all our lives, and we did. We made it through to where we are now, about to leave Grande Prairie, and continue our adventures. 

We leave with peace, and regret. Regret we couldn't get action on the crimes committed, and peace knowing that what could be done we have done. I'm not giving up on the idea that justice will come, just know, I just don't know how yet. I have been careful not to splat out the rage and anger 🤬 I feel broadly, I believe this will do no good. Not that I don't want to, or that I don't wake every day thinking of what can I do? Who can I reach out to? What will get action? 

My mind has been overwhelmed, really pushed to the limit I say, when the thoughts are coming in faster then I can separate them. When one box of Kleenex leads to another, and another, that when I know I've really done it. I'm happy to say Wendy & Jack are very good Costco shoppers, everything in bulk. Never run out of whatever here.

 I shake my head as I write right now, I still can't believe it. Those are Polly's words, so many times, she just can't believe it! How, why, what the 🤬🤬🤬🤬

And on we go, one foot in front of the other, we will say goodbye to our friends, and family here in GP today and tomorrow, and Sunday we fly towards Chesapeake, Virginia, where friends we have an invite to "stay as long as you like" also came to our rescue during this unexpectable time. Friends we met at a funeral for a friend a few years ago, that were so helpful then, and have been now again. 

I've heard and read "you reap what you sow" now going through this I truly believe this to be true. I'm not sure what good we have sown, but we sure are reaping the crop. People off offer at times like this, but we have witnessed so much love, help, friendship, and giving that my inner being is just overwhelmed with love. So many people helping, and hurting at the same time. 

I have to say this is, was will continue to be the most soul retching experience I've ever had to go through, and with that it is also the most supportive time I've ever been through as well. I know, we know we can't ever thank people enough for all that they have done to help, just know everything was really appreciated. 

Ah I thought the sighing was done, not yet. 

Another drink of coffee ☕ another look at the black window 

What now? 

Friends called last night, We had a video chat with them they are in Florida now, wanting us to come visit with them as they just arrived, and we're feeling tipsy, and enjoying their pool, and their friends that have a house rented for some winter escape. Was a fun conversation, was just that little bit of fun that helps break us from the sadness we have been in for long, too long. Was really nice to laugh, laugh and just be silly for a short time. 

I know we just don't flip a switch, and life goes on, this next part with Polly and I will take time to, to what? Be ok? Feel ok? Move on? I sigh again, I just don't know. Time will tell, I know that will change things, "but" I want to say here, so I'll change that to here we go, onward and upward 👆

6:40 now, house very quiet, only the furnace still blowing, the clock moving quietly back and forth

I know that action is what is about to happen, as we move from here to there, then again we pick up our Jack's, and move again. Action is something Polly and I like, movement to the next place, park, town, 🏖️ beach, dream. 

This nightmare will subside, and our lives will continue, our adventures with each other and friends will go on. I'm just not sure right now how, I do know that the saying "pull up you socks and get going" applies here.

On the Tuesday in Virginia I have an appointment with the producer of CTV Edmonton news station, on a video chat, to tell what I see as a injustice in our countries justice system. To help people understand that in Grande Prairie Alberta, you can be run into by someone driving there car, and run onto the hood down the road 1/2 a block or more, then dumped off onto the cement on your head, then drive away. Leave the scene, and not be charged with a criminal act, even if the police and the crown prosecutor agreed "it's a crime, this was criminal, in our opinion, we just can't prove it in court." "He came back to the scene, he dialled 911, under the directions of his passenger."  So they will not charge this 17 year old that's now walking around, driving around Grande Prairie Free. 

I'm not going to give up till we have justice, I'm not sure how that works here in Canada, but I do know what that Looks like to most anyone that I talk with, and it doesn't look like a person driving, walking, free to do as he wants while our son, husband, friend is gone. 

I always told my kids when they would exclaim "it's not fair" that the world 🌍 is not fair, I guess I'm looking at my own words now. 😞

Just after 7 now, I'm guessing I better stop for now, another sigh, and another drink of what's now cold coffee ☕. 

I laugh, that's my story and I'm stickin to it!

💔 🤗♥️